The Ocean at the End of the Lane Meets Memory Lane

This is an essay by Brandon Monk.

“I remembered that, and, remembering that, I remembered everything.” Neil Gaiman, The Ocean at the End of the Lane.

I’ve written before about the idea that taking a trip down reading memory lane is a worthwhile way to re-kindle your reading interest. An old favorite–a book you read for pleasure as a child–can take you back to the days when reading was a care-free experience. Often, the mandatory reading school imposes robs us of the pleasure. Those who continue to read find ways to carve out time to read the things they like.

But, what if you have no pleasant reading memory? I recently read Neil Gaiman’s, The Ocean at the End of the Lane. It’s a book that captures the essence of what it’s like to read for pleasure. The main character is bookish, the setting is fantasy, and the book engages the mythic inclinations hard-wired in our minds.

I see Gaiman’s book as picking up where I left off when I wrote the piece about taking a trip down reading memory lane eighteen months ago. Sometimes it takes a new book to fill the gaps in our thought process. The Ocean at the End of the Lane does that for me. It’s the closest I’ve come to the feeling I had when I’d read something I loved as a child since I’ve been forced into adulthood by the passage of time. It gives me new hope that even without a pleasurable childhood reading experience we can fill the gaps in our adult lives and find a way to read for pleasure.

Gaiman invokes three things in the book that make it have the effect it does:

1. Gaiman’s main character takes us back to our childhood.

Gaiman must have poured much of himself into the main character of the novel. His bookish ways, the manner in which he views the world, his old-soul makeup. He’d rather be reading than adventuring. But, as children, we always end up doing something other than what we want and it’s often those things that make us grow the most.

Gaiman recognizes, though, that even as adults we’re still pretending to be something we aren’t. We’re still forced to do things we don’t want to do and the way we keep ourselves in tact is by taking some time to be alone with our inner-selves and even our inner-child.

2. Gaiman invokes our sense of nostalgia.

The novel begins with an adult main character returning to his childhood home. The novel becomes a reflection on his childhood past. The effect of this is to take the reader back in time to our own childhood. Gaiman guides us, through the narrative, to our own past. Those experiences are a combination of pleasant and unpleasant events that have shaped us into the people we are. Gaiman’s novel acts as a guided meditation down memory lane and it can supplement or fill the gaps of our childhood reading past.

To explore this aspect of the book, I recommend reading slowly enough to allow time for reflection. Make annotations in the book or in a notebook of the memories brought to the surface by your reading. The interaction you have with the novel can cause you to remember things you’d thought were long forgotten. In that way, the book serves as a path by which you can arrive at some of those sentimental places that exist, now, only in your mind.

3. Gaiman’s fantasy setting carries us far enough away from the real.

Fantasy settings allow us to step out of the world where we’re expected to know how everything works, and to have an answer for every uncertainty we experience. If a fantasy setting is done right, there are enough things there to remind us of our real lives, but it’s equally important that we be asked to temporarily suspend our rational thought processes long enough to accept the fantasy the author’s created. Gaiman masterfully mixes the two. We can both relate to the world we’re told of, yet not completely understand what will come next.

The benefit to the reader is that they’re given a break from the real. They’re given an opportunity to live in the world created by the cooperative effort of the author and the reader. Just enough distance is created by the fantasy to give space for you to explore our own thoughts and remembrances.

Gaiman’s novel does what I could never do in a non-fiction piece. It creates a fantasy that fills the gaps or reminds us what we used to be like when we were willing to admit we don’t know how everything works. It’s a novel that takes us down memory lane and it can, I think, re-kindle our love of reading even if we have no pleasurable reading memory of our own.


Brandon Monk is a Texas attorney. He created to foster the love of amateur reading in adults.

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  1. Angelo B. Ancheta

    Thanks for this, Brandon. I’ve been meaning to read this new work from Neil Gaiman. I’ll sure to get back to you on this after i’m done reading.

    1. Brandon Monk (@readlearnwrite)

      I would love to hear your thoughts. Hopefully, I didn’t spoil much of the story for you.

  2. Angelo

    *I’ll surely get back, rather

  3. A.

    Brandon, I am so glad you wrote this, because I love, love, love The Ocean at the End of the Lane. It is definitely one of my top reads/releases of 2013 (perhaps only rivaled by Tartt’s The Goldfinch) and probably one of my favorite things Gaiman has ever written (which is saying a lot!) It just has a lot of feeling, which I feel is lacking in some of his others works.

    I watched him speak about it for a Google talk and he said how he wrote it as a love letter to his wife, Amanda, basically, because he couldn’t be with her. I’d like to think this is one of the contributing factors for why this novel is so special and wonderful. Maybe that is just the romantic is me. I don’t know.

    Hope you’re well,

    1. Brandon Monk (@readlearnwrite)

      Thanks Amarie. I loved the book, too. I had read American Gods a year or so ago and it just wasn’t for me, but this book showed me part of the reason why Gaiman has such a following. Of course, his endless efforts to reach out to readers on a personal level through signings, social media, etc help that a great deal, as well. It’s interesting to hear that this is a kind of love letter, but I get the feeling that the two express their love in the way that suits them best without regard to societal norms. I admire that a great deal.

      I need to read The Goldfinch soon because I’ve heard from several reputable sources it’s worth it.

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